Posts By Marc & Angel, Shared By Renowned Creative & Poet…William S. Peters Sr.
3 things to remember when you don’t feel good enough.
1. You can disappoint people and still be good enough. You can do things differently and still be good enough. So forget popularity. Focus on sincerity. Do what you do, not for an applause, but because it is what is right for you. Practice respecting yourself, caring for yourself, and becoming a reliable part of your own support system.
2. Progress comes from the process. Trust the journey you are on today. And remember that true purpose has no time limit. True purpose has no deadline. Don’t stress and overwhelm yourself. Just do what you can right now.
3. Comes in the form of a quick story…
Once upon a time there was an elderly woman who needed to walk down to the river every morning to fetch water for drinking, cooking and cleaning. She carried two buckets with her, filled them up at the riverbank, and walked back with them to her rural cottage home.
One of the buckets was newer, perfectly sealed, and held its water flawlessly. But the second bucket was older and contained a few thin cracks that would leak water onto the ground as the elderly woman walked. By the time she arrived home, typically about one third of the water in the second bucket had leaked through its cracks.
One day, on the walk down to the river, the cracked bucket – who had always felt like it wasn’t as good as the other bucket – said to the elderly woman, “I want you to know that I’ve been leaking water every morning for the past several years. I’m so sorry for being cracked and making your life more difficult. I understand if you need to replace me with a better bucket.”
The elderly woman smiled. “Do you really think I haven’t known about your cracks this whole time?” she asked. “Look at all the beautiful flowers that grow on the path from my cottage to the river. I planted their seeds, but every morning it’s you who does the watering.”
Think better… A path through flowers.
REMEMBER:
Feeling good enough in life, in work, in business, and in our relationships has everything to do with how we personally judge the cracks in our own bucket. Because we all have a few cracks!
But are they cracks that wreck us, that taint us, and that ruin our experience and desirability?
Or do our cracks water a trail of flowers we haven’t even stopped to appreciate?
Choose to see the flowers through the cracks in your own bucket – choose to see how it’s exactly those cracks that make you good enough…
Choose to THINK BETTER and your whole universe will shift!
Seriously, YOU ARE ENOUGH…
The bottom line is, despite the real world challenges and figurative cracks we all have to cope with, the biggest and most complex obstacle you will ever have to personally overcome is your own mind and how often you hesitate to give yourself credit where credit is due. No, you aren’t responsible for everything that happens to you in life, but you ARE responsible for undoing the self-defeating thinking patterns that these undesirable experiences create.
YES, YOU CAN THINK BETTER, which means you can see your cracks for what they are, and ultimately live better because of them.
And YES, like I said, that’s sometimes easier said than done, but you are NOT alone on this journey…
Many of us are right there with you, working hard to do the right things for ourselves.
5 Hard Things to Start Doing for Yourself
1. Tune out the cheap shots people take at you. Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all. Seriously, before you waste it on anger, spite or frustration, think of how precious and irreplaceable your time is today. Give yourself a permanent break from the drama that can be easily avoided—just don’t engage in it. Life is just too short to argue and fight. Count your blessings, value the people who matter, and move on from the drama with your head held high. Remind yourself that calmness is a human superpower. The ability to not overreact or take things personally keeps your mind clear, your heart at peace, and yourself moving forward.
2. It’s incredibly easy to overestimate the significance of a single decision, outcome, or event in the heat of the moment. But you must remind yourself to take a deep breath when things don’t go your way. Your results in the long run—good or bad—are always the byproduct of many small decisions, outcomes, and events over time. The truth is we all fail sometimes. The greater truth is that no single failure ever defines us.
3. On an average day, most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your response and all that extra stress is gone. Truly, inner calmness among chaos is a superpower that frees you to focus more effectively on the few things that actually matter.
4. What you pay attention to grows. So stop managing your time so closely, and start managing your FOCUS more mindfully. Practice focusing on what truly matters, and letting go of what does not.
5. There’s a big difference between empty fatigue and gratifying exhaustion. Life is short. Invest daily in meaningful activities. And don’t wait around! Too often we wait—because we think we need to “find” something new or different to be passionate about. But that’s not true. If you want more passion in your life right now, act accordingly right now! Put your whole heart and soul into the next thing you do. Not into tomorrow’s opportunities, but the opportunity right in front of you. Not into tomorrow’s tasks, but today’s tasks. Not into tomorrow’s run, but today’s run. Not into tomorrow’s conversations, but today’s conversations. I’m absolutely certain you have plenty in your life right now that’s worth your time, energy, and passionate focus. You have people and circumstances in your life that need you as much as you need them. You have a massive reservoir of passionate potential within you, just waiting…
Stop waiting!
Is this email your wake up call?
How many times have you thought “this isn’t working” or “something is not right” or “things have to change”? — those thoughts and words are from your inner voice. It’s your wake-up call calling. You don’t need more stress or a major crisis to wake up. And no one needs to tell you because you already know. Your inner voice has been trying to tell you, but in case it’s been a challenge to find time and space to listen through the chaos, maybe you’ll resonate with one of these situations.
If you are worn down, beat up, stressed out, and completely depleted, this is your wake-up call.
If your life is aimlessly on auto-pilot, this is your wake-up call.
If you never put yourself first, this is your wake-up call.
If you’ve become someone you don’t recognize to please other people or to chase some version of success that doesn’t resonate with you, this is your wake-up call.
If you are constantly numbing out with food, shopping, booze, TV, or other distractions, this is your wake-up call.
Getting your wake-up call is not the hard part, answering the call is. Choosing to answer the call instead of ignoring it is hard. Right now, it may feel easier to keep going, and going, and going gradually in the wrong direction. But you know if you don’t let go and find a way out of the endless cycle you’re in, it’s going to get worse.
It’s time to listen to what your inner voice has been telling you…
Because despite the real world challenges you face, the biggest and most complex obstacle you will ever have to personally overcome is your own mind and how often you resist your own better judgment. No, you aren’t responsible for everything that happens to you in life (the chaos around you), but you ARE responsible for undoing the self-defeating thinking patterns (the chaos within you) that these undesirable experiences create.
YES, YOU CAN THINK BETTER, which means you can tune that inner voice of yours and ultimately live better because of it.
And YES, like I said, that’s easier said than done, but you are NOT alone on this journey…
